As this calendar year begins, I am facing a moral reality that I can no longer ignore. It was a splinter that started out small but then began to wedge itself so deeply in my skin that it’s actually started to cause pain. After almost 2 decades of getting really good at what I do, I’ve …
Pretending everything is ok is not a good way to grow. The modern world asks us to lie. To ourselves and to each other. As children we are socialized to repress our instincts and needs. To be polite. To be nice. To take what is given. To be the right size for whatever room we …
I used to be self-conscious. I had been trained to see myself through other peoples eyes. My identity was based on what everyone else thought I was. My shape was based on what everyone else needed. When you are self-conscious, you are experiencing yourself in comparison to people outside of you. Not all comparison is …